No one ever said that parenting was going to be easy. Especially when you have two or more children, it can be difficult to keep up with what is going on with each of them. It is so important to every child to have their parents make them feel as if they are very special and have that one on one time together. This is hard to do for some parents that work full time and then have to divide up the rest of their life with the kids, their own social activities, and other responsibilities they might have also.

Sometimes a parent will have an invalid parent to care for. Sometimes the parent might have a child that requires more attention than the others because of special needs. This can really make it tough to spend the quality time you should with the other children. The rest might even become resentful of the special needs child because they get so much time with a parent and they do not. Though the situation might be difficult, you must find a way to make each of your children feel that they have a relationship with you that is special only to them and that no one else has the same thing.

The only way to do this is to make sure you set aside time for each one. If you have to get a sitter for your special needs child for the day just so you can spend this quality time with the other children, this is what you must do. Of course, there are always times that you will spend together as a family, but this is not the best way to understand and get to know each child individually. In large families it is not uncommon for one child or more to feel like they are being shortchanged when it comes to the attention they are getting for themselves alone. Group activities are fine as long as there is at least some time that is dedicated totally to them.

Even if it is just once a month, you need to find a way to spend at least a few hours alone with each of your children. It is important also that you try to do what they want to do if possible. This makes them feel that you care about what interests them and that you want them to be happy. Take this time to talk with the child. Ask about what new friends they have made or if things are going well at school. Ask them if there is anything on their mind that they want to talk about specifically. This is really a good thing to do if you have a child that you feel is often too quiet. It is important for you as a parent to ask the questions in an interested way because many children will keep things to themselves that you might need to know about. It could be that someone at school or even at home is bullying them. By now we know that children that are bullied by other kids can develop some serious issues and if they are doing the bullying, there is likely a problem of some kind too.

Do your best to make each of your children feel special in their own way. Know there talents and good points and give them plenty of praise and encouragement. Try to get them to try things that they are interested in. The last thing you want when you have several children is for one or more of them to grow up and feel like they were left out or was pushed aside because of you were too busy for them.

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