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The Top 3 Reasons Why Marriages Fail For Men

Friday 7 August 2009 @ 10:07 pm

Before I list why marriages fail for men, let me define what I mean by a man’s marriage failing.

What I mean here when I say that a marriage fails is that your wife has lost interest in you. Or at least, she’s not as interested in you as you’d like.If it gets bad, she eventually expresses her disinterest in you by either: a) wanting to leave you, or b) cheating on you.And it may happen in degrees, but to whatever extent she’s disinterested, the marriage is failing.

So if you want to keep her interest, don’t let these 3 reasons why marriages fail happen to you: Why Marriages Fail For Men Reason #1: Ego
Get this one handled first. This is often the first reason why marriages fail. Honestly, step on your ego a little and half your problems will be solved.

If you get this handled, you may not even need to know the other two reasons why marriages fail for men.It’s your ego that’s busy holding grudges, that can’t forgive.It’s your ego that makes you lose your temper and do stupid things.

It’s your ego that stops you from learning how to be a bigger man and a better husband.It’s your ego that prevents you from repairing your relationship when you’ve screwed up unless you’re like me and you never screw up. Okay, okay, I admit it, I’ve screwed up more times than I care to remember.And you have to. It happens, man. Get over it. Just fix it.

Why Marriages Fail For Men Reason #2: Blame
The second reason why marriages fail for men is that they convince themselves that women are the reason why marriages fail.

Man, I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard a husband complain about his wife, and I think to myself, “Dude, she’s not the problem. You are.”Of course, I often tell him that, too. (It’s the tough love I have to give sometimes.)
Listen, bro: Your wife is not the reason why your marriage is failing. Stop blaming your wife for any marriage problems you face. Stop blaming her for how she treats you.

Have you ever heard the saying, “We teach people how to treat us?” If you haven’t, then you need to write it down right now: “We teach people how to treat us.”
So ask yourself, “How am I teaching my wife to treat me?”

My wife treats me with honor, love, and respect. She likes to think it’s because of what a wonderful woman she is. And she is a wonderful woman. But it’s because I won’t accept anything less from her.

Why Marriages Fail For Men Reason #3: Logic
What?! How can logic be a reason why marriages fail?! Well, read on, and you’ll see.How your wife behaves depends on how she feels. And how she feels will never change with logic. So don’t try to convince your wife with logic that she should behave differently.

It’s not about logic. It’s about emotion. So get used to thinking in terms of emotion, and not in terms of logic. Many men fail to recognize their wife’s emotions, and that’s a big reason why marriages fail for them.

On a practical level, what does that mean? For one, it means stop arguing with her and trying to convince her to see things your way. If you inspire her emotions, she’ll give everything to please you, even if she thinks you’re wrong. Cuz it doesn’t matter whether, logically, you’re right or wrong. What matters is how you make her feel.

Setting aside logic also means that you need to stop judging her feelings. Her feelings are her feelings. It doesn’t matter if you think they “make sense” or not. Because it’s not about logic; it’s about feelings. It’s all about emotions.Stop trying to find “reason” with your wife. Instead, just understand her “emotion”.

She’s not a guy. She’s a girl. Appreciate that. Stop trying to make her like a guy and “straighten” her. Just let her be a girl and enjoy the curvature.

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How Can Avoiding Blame Help My Marriage?

Friday 7 August 2009 @ 8:32 am

Most of us that have been married any length of time have experienced those times where you are trying to work out a disagreement and you find yourself getting deeper with every attempt to justify what happened. All you want to do is restore peace and harmony but you can’t see that happening until you get your point through. Finally, in frustration you throw your hands up and say; “Okay you win it’s just not that important anyway” as you walk away.

In most cases you are absolutely right! In the grand scheme of your marriage, it probably wasn’t that important to be the winner of your spat! But, as far as speedily resolving issues in your relationship goes, it is super important. And in that situation there was no resolution. There was no winner you both lose. Because those unresolved issues whether big or small will affect your relationship in the long run.

You may be thinking. Wait a minute! How do both of us win? And that’s where things can get sticky. They only way for both of you to win is for things to come to the point of forgiveness. And forgiveness is not likely to occur until blame stops and acceptance of responsibility takes place.

I am not suggesting that any person take blame unduly. But, that both parties reflect on their own role in whatever issue has lead to the breakdown, rather than to blame the other person. Then take responsibility for your part by not only acknowledging it but by asking your spouse to forgive you. Be genuine in trying to understand your spouse’s position and feelings concerning what has happened, without judging them on the scale of right or wrong.

Is it more important to be right or to have a happy and lasting marriage? Is it better to be wrong once and then make things right? Or, is it better to be wrong twice and to have to repair the mess that comes with that?

Personally, I try to avoid the right and wrong thing altogether. If my wife feels that I have offended her or treated unfairly then that is the way she feels. There is no right or wrong there. If she feels that way then I want to know about it because it is never my intention to hurt the woman that I love.

So I try to make it my practice to listen to her and actually hear what she has to say. When I realize that I have become defensive I try to stop. The best defense is to not defend my position but in listening to hers. Then I have no problem being humble and asking her to forgive me. It actually feels a lot better than fighting and it takes less energy too.

Matt Perusse
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Premarital Agreements are Alive and Well in Florida

Thursday 6 August 2009 @ 10:26 am

Unfortunately, the reality in our society is that we cannot rely on the promise of a lifelong marriage. The United States currently has the highest divorce rate at about 50 percent for first marriages and almost 70 percent for remarriages. If you live in Florida, the picture becomes even more bleak. A CDC National Vital Statistics Report reveals that in the month of October 2008, Florida had the highest number of divorces (7,007) among the 44 responding states.

Considering the Census Bureau’s projection that Florida’s population of people over age 65 will continue to be the highest in the U.S., the chance of being an older Floridian in a shaky second marriage soars, as does the possibility of being widowed. Fortunately, a premarital agreement can bring predictability and security to the circumstances surrounding settlement of your personal affairs following a marriage or remarriage.

Personal Security in Marriage

The premarital agreement is a carefully thought-out contract between two people in anticipation of their marriage. Such agreements may also be referred to as antenuptial or prenuptial agreements, and informally as prenups. The couple planning to be married decides how important financial matters will be resolved in case of divorce, separation or death.

Common issues prospective spouses negotiate include the following:

- Division of real property and assets acquired during the marriage
- Property entitlement and control in the event of divorce or death
- Responsibility for liabilities incurred during the marriage
- Designation of each prospective spouse’s “separate property,” and whether or not that property will remain nonmarital or become marital depending upon how it is titled
- Determination of joint and separate living expenses and how they will be paid during the marriage
- Designation of how assets acquired and liabilities incurred during the marriage will be titled
- Determination of rights to each other’s retirement assets and waiver of beneficiary rights
- Spousal support, also known as alimony or spousal maintenance
- Life insurance rights
- Estate planning tools like wills and trusts
- Choice of which jurisdiction’s law will apply to the agreement

Florida Uniform Premarital Agreement Act

Florida adopted the Uniform Premarital Agreement Act (UPAA) effective October 1, 2007. The Act applies to prenuptial agreements entered into from that date forward. Some major provisions of the Florida UPAA (Fla. Stat. 61.079) are as follows:

- The agreement must be in writing
- The agreement must be signed by both parties
- Any personal right or obligation may be dealt with as long as the arrangement does not conflict with criminal law or Florida public policy
- Child support may not be predetermined
- Revocation of or modifications to the agreement after marriage must be in writing
- Execution must be voluntary
- The agreement may not be influenced by fraud, duress, coercion or overreaching
- The agreement may not be unconscionable; before entering into the contract, both parties must either receive fair disclosure of the other’s assets, income and liabilities, or voluntarily and in writing waive the right to such disclosure
- If the parties agree to a level of spousal support that would impoverish one party, making him or her liable for public assistance, the court may award additional alimony necessary to avoid such public assistance

Typical Scenarios

Marriages today do not typically look like they did 50 years ago. In the past, it was common for two young adults in their 20s to marry for life, raise children, build financial security and accumulate assets, with the husband working for one company for many years to support the family and the wife staying home to tend to the home and raise the kids.
Nowadays, divorce and remarriage are more common. In addition, people wait longer to marry and are more often financially secure before marrying; gender roles are not so strictly defined, with either or both parties bringing in significant assets; and spouses frequently enter marriages or remarriages with children from previous marriages or relationships.

Prenuptial agreements allow modern spouses to control assets, liabilities and other matters in nontraditional scenarios. Here are a few common examples:

- Two people enter a second marriage later in life, financially sound and with adult children. They want their individual estates to go to their own children and not to each other upon divorce or death. Neither needs the assets of the other, already being financially independent. Instead, for support and sentimental reasons, they want their children from past marriages and relationships to inherit the wealth, real estate and personal property (especially family heirlooms) accumulated during their earlier years and prior to the second marriage. Such a couple may use a prenuptial agreement to waive legal rights each may have otherwise had in the other’s individual property upon death or divorce to ensure that it goes to their respective children instead.

- Two independent high-income professionals contemplating marriage, one or both of which may own a business that was formed prior to the marriage, may decide that they want to use a prenup to designate their future earnings during the marriage as completely separate property not subject to division upon divorce, and/or to designate that the business formed prior to the marriage and any appreciation in the value of that business will remain a nonmarital asset.

- A potential spouse may want the protection of an agreement before marriage that he or she will not be liable for the other’s premarital debt.

Legal Counsel is Critical

Each party to a Florida prenuptial agreement should ideally have the advice of an experienced family law attorney. The legal requirements of an enforceable agreement are complex. The lawyer should be thoroughly familiar with Florida statutes and cases affecting prenups, as well as with issues and laws pertaining to divorce, pension and retirement plan rights and tax concerns. Formal, unhurried negotiation with the assistance of counsel lessens the probability of either party entering into the premarital agreement under duress, without full knowledge of the other’s financial position, or lacking meaningful understanding of the legal and practical implications of the agreement.

Reference: Lewert Law Offices, P.A.

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Anniversary Presents - The Right and the Wrong

Wednesday 29 July 2009 @ 5:56 pm

Because we unfortunately live in a world where half the people that get married end up getting divorced, you have even more reason to celebrate the success of healthy marriages each year. The best way to do this is through buying anniversary gifts.

The most ideal presents you can buy a married couple on their anniversary goes back to tradition. Each year they have been married designates a particular type of gift.

This really is the classic way to go about your present buying because it shows the couple that you respect their marriage and are doing so through your gift giving. The only problem is that not that many people know what the proper gifts are these days.

If you want to give anniversary presents that follow tradition, then you need to start with the first anniversary, which is traditionally a paper present.

Obviously you will not just give out a piece of blank paper, so you will want to do something such as a gift certificate or travel vouchers. If you skip a few years ahead to the fifth wedding anniversary, you will want to make your present wooden. This is an easy one because so many shops and boutiques carry products made of many types of wood.

To continue following tradition to mark the anniversary, you should make your tenth wedding anniversary present tin. This is really one of the most traditional gifts you can get a married couple to mark this landmark. It is great to follow tradition because it helps remind the couple why they got married so many years ago.

Year fifteen is where you can start to get creative with the gift you give because it is the year for crystal. You can go with something larger like a crystal bowl or you can get a small crystal figurine. Just make sure it is a present the couple will use and appreciate.

For the 20th, your gift should be China. Next in line for your traditional anniversary presents is silver for their 25th year the couple has been together. For the 30th year, you will want your gift to be pearl. The next milestone is coral.

Year 40 gets ruby, while 45 gets sapphire. The 50th is gold, while the 75th is diamond.

Because some of these milestones are not reached by as many couples as in times past, it is important to show your respect and honour for the couple by choosing traditional gifts on each anniversary.

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Engagement Jewelry - Are All Tahitian Pearls Black?

Saturday 25 July 2009 @ 5:00 pm

Are all Tahitian pearls black? Whats the difference between a cultured pearl and a natural pearl? Are freshwater pearls inferior to saltwater pearls? Are South Sea pearls really golden?

Good questions. With all the different pearl colors and types out there, it can be difficult to know just what you’re looking at. For those interested in buying pearls, or for gem enthusiasts who wish to learn more, here are answers to some of the most commonly asked questions about pearls.

Are All Tahitian Pearls Black?
Not only are Tahitian cultured pearls not exclusively black, they’re also not grown in Tahiti. Called black because of their exotic dark colors, Tahitian cultured pearls can also be gray, blue, green and brown. And they’re grown in the lagoons of small islands that are part of a group known as French Polynesia. Tahiti, the largest island, serves as the groups center of commerce, and not as a pearl growing mecca.

Tahitian pearls are cultivated for about two years in Pinctada margaritifera cumingi, a large mollusk native to French Polynesia. One of the ways this unique oyster differs from other species is its interior shell color, which is dark. This so-called black lipped oyster also has black mantle edges the lips that give this animal its descriptive name.

Today, the most sought-after Tahitian cultured pearls are dark green-gray to blue gray with rose or purple overtones. Pearl colors are determined by several factors, including variations in the host oyster, color variation of the implanted donor mussel tissue, the number and thickness of nacre layers, and variations in growing environment such as temperature and water quality. Tahitians are most often variations of gray, black, green and blue, but other colors exist.

At an average size of 8mm-14mm, Tahitian cultured pearls especially those specimens that are gem-quality and round are very expensive. According to the latest information from the Gemological Institute of America, up to 40 percent of implanted black-lipped oysters produce a gem-quality cultured pearl, but only about 5 percent of the pearls they produce are round. And only 1-2 percent of the entire crop will result in round cultured pearls of the finest quality. No wonder a Tahitian pearl strand is so costly! If you want to wear Tahitian cultured pearls, one way to do so without breaking the bank is to choose a pendant-style necklace with a single pearl, pearl stud earrings, a single pearl ring, or baroque (non-symmetrical) pearls. These designs are every bit as exotic and a lot more affordable than a matched strand.

Whats the difference between a cultured pearl and a natural pearl?
Natural pearls are formed when an irritant, such as a parasite, makes its way into a pearl-producing animal such as an oyster or mollusk. To protect itself, the animal coats the irritant in nacre a combination of organic substances that also makes up what we call mother-of pearl. Over time, the layers of nacre build up around the intruder and eventually form the organic gem we all know as the pearl.

Cultured pearls are formed in the same way as natural pearls, with one big difference: they get their start not by chance, but deliberately, when man intervenes with nature. To produce cultured pearls, a skilled technician, called a nucleator, induces the pearl-growing process by surgically placing an irritant mother-of-pearl bead and a piece of mantle tissue, usually into a mollusk. The animal is then placed back into the water and monitored, cleaned, etc. until the pearl is ready to be harvested.

The Chinese have been culturing freshwater blister pearls (pearls that grow underneath the mantle on the inside of the animals shell) since the 13th century, but Kokichi Mikimoto, a Japanese man, is credited with developing modern pearl culturing techniques. By the early 1920s, Mikimoto was selling his cultured pearls worldwide.

Natural pearls can be very beautiful, but due to overfishing, pollution and other factors, they are a rare find indeed. Thus, nearly all pearls sold today are cultured pearls. There are two main types: freshwater and saltwater. South Sea cultured pearls, Tahitian cultured pearls and akoya cultured pearls are all types of saltwater pearls. Cultured pearls of all types can be found in jewelry stores worldwide.

Are saltwater pearls better than freshwater pearls?
It depends on who you ask, but many pearl experts today agree that freshwater cultured pearls can rival the beauty of their saltwater cousins. Due to improvements in culturing techniques, freshwater pearl farmers are producing beautiful, round, lustrous pearls that are a vast improvement over the wrinkled, rice-krispie-shaped gems that typified the freshwater pearl crop of the not-so-distant past.

Produced mainly in China, freshwater pearls are often nucleated, or implanted, with mantle tissue only (rather than a mother-of-pearl bead). Because they do not contain a starter bead, tissue-nucleated freshwater pearls are 100% nacre. This gives them a beautiful luster and a durable surface that won’t easily flake or peel to reveal the inner bead. By contrast, pearls that are bead-nucleated and harvested too soon often have only a thin coating of nacre that will flake or peel. This is a major problem: Unlike many other gemstones, pearls cannot be polished back to perfection.

Freshwater cultured pearls come in many beautiful natural pastel colors including cream, white, yellow, orange, pink and lavender. (Universally flattering lavender pearls are very popular right now.) White pearls are bleached to enhance their natural shine. Black freshwater cultured pearls are treated with dye or heat to produce their inky color.

Overall, freshwater pearls are more plentiful than other pearl types, thus they are generally more affordable.

Are South Sea pearls really golden?
Yes. Pearls produced in the aptly named gold-lipped oyster (P. maxima) can be a gorgeous creamy yellow, referred to as golden in the trade. (The silver-lipped variety of P. maxima produces beautiful silver or white pearls.) Grown in the South Seas which stretch from the southern coast of Southeast Asia to the northern coast of Australia these pearls are grown in one of the biggest oysters used in pearl culturing. Because they can accept a larger bead and secrete nacre faster than their smaller counterparts, these big oysters produce large pearls of exceptional luster and beauty. South Sea pearls thick coating of nacre gives the gems a wonderful luster, or glow, that appears to come from deep within the pearl. The warm waters, abundant food supply and low pollution levels of the South Seas also help these oysters produce beautiful cultured pearls.

Although Australia produces 60% of the worlds South Sea cultured pearls, Indonesian farmers work more with the gold-lipped oyster, and thus produce more golden pearls. The silver-lipped variety produces equally beautiful pearls that come in white to silver and often have rose, blue or green overtones. Aside from giving them a light wash, pearl farmers do not treat South Sea pearls after harvest.

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How To Understand Men - Your Way To Making A Happy Marriage

Wednesday 22 July 2009 @ 9:57 pm

Knowing how to understand men is one important thing that we, women, have to keep in mind in having relationships with our boyfriends or husbands. We sometimes think of not being understood in the relationships - but we often neglect about how to understand men in our lives.

In the end, we find our spouses or boyfriends cheating on us and we never cannot understand why. So early on, let us try to decipher what men really want from women.

Why men are so engrossed with sex

Men’s sexual drive is indeed different from that of a woman. The hormone testosterone in the man is responsible for wanting for sex or their libido. Thus, it is but normal for men to be constantly seeking for sex. If you want to understand men and their sex drives, you might also want to understand that they have different feeling towards sex because of the testosterone pressure they feel in their bodies. In relationships, women are constantly seeking for attention, for love and pampering and men tend to be seeking for sex. Knowing these differences and understanding why these differences exist will truly help you in how to please your partner to make him happy in marriage.

Men need space for themselves

Even women need space too. We all need space in our lives. Being in a relationship or tying the knot with the man you love does not necessarily mean clinging to that man day after day. Sometimes when women are so overwhelmed and in love, we tend to love having our man around and spending time with him always, but we have to understand that sometimes men want to have their quiet time or time with friends. Not because you are married you can always tag along with your man anywhere he goes. In marriage, you can manage this by giving time for him to be by himself and schedule time for you to spend together. Although too much space for both of you can also be bad for the relationship, so make a balance.

Men need time to think

You may probably get upset when you are trying to bring up a concern and your man does not seem to respond to that immediately. Sometimes we think men are not interested in what we say and in dealing with issues that we bring to their attention. To us, it seems like he was thinking about something else, which sometimes can end up in arguments. We have to understand that most often, men want to process their problems and their thoughts to themselves, and they may want to think about it for some time. Oftentimes, men want to talk about it when they are able to come up with a solution and they do not want to talk about it piece by piece.

These are just three ways on how to understand men in your life. There are still a lot of differences between men and women that somehow we need to understand to help us build a good relationship with our man. So the next time we get upset or angry with our spouses, let us take time to put ourselves in their shoes and learn how they think about it and their behavior towards a situation. This way we will be guided on how to understand them and how to make wonderful relationships with them.

Carolyn Anderson is a freelance author and a relationship expert. To learn more about pleasing your man, check out The Women Men Adore. Also check out How to Be Irresistible to Men, where you find ways to have attract the man of your dreams.

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How to Please Your Husband - Tips to Make a Happy Marriage

Tuesday 21 July 2009 @ 1:52 pm

Making a happy marriage is of course an effort from both partners, thus, if you are a wife who wants to make your marriage happy, it is important that you know how to please your husband.

One way of showing your love to your spouse is giving. When you give and know how to please your husband, you will most likely receive more love as well. In a relationship, however, it is important that you give and love unconditionally.

For ideas on how to please your husband, here are a few to add to your list. Keep in mind that no matter how small it is, it could be of big help to maintaining a happy marriage.

* Listen and pay attention. Listening is one way to settle arguments, appeasing anger between spouse and in decision-making in marriage. If you know how to listen, you will be able to iron out things easily.

* Learn to manage your finances well. Do not indulge in luxuries and debts without letting your husband know. Troubled finances between couples often cause arguments and can sometimes lead to divorce, so avoid it from the start.

* Take care of your children. Provide them with good food and nutrition, as well as keep them clean. Although parenthood should be a shared responsibility, giving extra care to make the children healthy, clean and well-taught can be a good way on how to please your husband, especially if you are a homemaker.

* Limit jealousy. Some levels of jealousy may be flattering to a man or woman but it can also grow into an annoying habit. Before you get into that trouble in your married life, learn to trust your husband. Keep jealousy to a level where it is still admirable. Trust your partner.

* Make him enjoy the lovemaking. It is an essential part of marriage and gone are those days that only men can initiate the lovemaking act. Initiating lovemaking with your partner will also make him feel wanted. If you want to please your husband in bed, variety is also a key. You can find many resources online on how to please your husband in bed or ask him what he likes.

* Make yourself pleasing. Be attractive for your husband. Not because you are already married you will now quit making yourself beautiful to your husband. Still do. You may not be conscious like before when you were dating, but try to be pleasing at least to the eyes of your husband.

* Be loyal to him. Marriage is about commitment to your husband and keeping that promise is indeed a good requisite of a happy marriage. Support your husband in times when he experiences bad days at work or if he is having a hard time with his business.

* Appreciate your husband. If you love to be appreciated, so is your partner. Cultivate the habit of being appreciative for things that your husband do for you, for the family and for the marriage. Instead of picking on his weaknesses and finding faults, learn to appreciate him. This way, he will most likely reciprocate it with more good deeds.

Knowing how to please your husband indeed is an important thing in making your marriage work. Of course, it takes two to make the relationship a happy and successful one but do not wait for who will start pleasing who. You can start with yourself.

Carolyn Anderson loves to share great resources for those who need it. To learn about understanding your husband better, check out what husbands want. Also check out man of your dreams, where you find tips on finding the man of your dreams.

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Tips For A Happy Marriage - Ways To Make Your Spouse Happy

Tuesday 21 July 2009 @ 9:25 am

Happy marriages are created. Living with the one you love may be happiness itself but you and your partner need to nurture the relationship and work on maintaining the relationship to be happy and fulfilling. Indeed, relationships need effort and it should come from both of you. If you are looking for ways to work on this, here are some tips for a happy marriage that you may want to start with.

- Stop the urge to nag your spouse. Listen instead. Listening can make wonders in a relationship. Listening can help you understand any situation, maintain an open communication, and help you resolve conflicts with you spouse.

- Think of a surprise once in a while. A surprise need not be something that needs a lot of preparation. If you are busy with work or with the housework, you can think of something that can put a smile on your partner’s face. Even a note posted on the refrigerator or a love letter inserted on his planner can be a great way to rekindle those sparks in the relationship. Being married is not an excuse to be not sweet and mushy. You can also have a makeover and surprise your spouse. Break the same old you and make yourself look good for your spouse.

- Don’t forget to say thank you. Being grateful to your spouse is one great way to let your spouse know that you appreciate him and you see the good in him, so do not just receive favors, be appreciative.

- Go to dates once in a while. Having time for yourselves is one of the important tips for a happy marriage. Find time to have fun, watch a funny show and have a good laugh together.

- Find a gift for your spouse. There is no need to have an occasion to treat your spouse. Even a simple gift would do - a ticket to a Saturday night movie, a camping trip, or even cooking his favorite food and small things that will bring a smile to his face.

- Learn to disagree without being aggressive and defensive. Being able to talk about your disagreements in a neutral tone would help a lot in ironing out conflicts in marriage.

- Spend a few minutes each day to cuddle or just talk about the events of the day. Marriages and relationships dwindle down because couples do not anymore spend time to cuddle and talk like at the start of the marriage. No matter how busy you are with your career or housework, a few minutes for your spouse can help you stay connected.

- Say sorry for your mistakes. Not because you are with your spouse everyday, you would not just mind apologizing. Apologizing can be a difficult thing to do but there are creative ways to do it. Send a card of apology, do something nice for your partner or just simply say it.

- Give compliments each day. Compliment your spouse on the things he does right rather than picking on what he does not. This can also encourage your partner to do more of the positive things he does.

- Initiate lovemaking. Sex in marriage should not be only a man’s responsibility. Most often, spouse are turned on when their wives seduce them and initiate the sexual act. One of the great tips for a happy marriage is giving.

- Show love. It is not enough that you said ‘I do’ in your marriage vows. A kiss, a kind deed, a good compliment, a kind thought - show your spouse everyday that you love him.

Start with this few tips for a happy marriage and try to do a thing or two each day. You will probably be surprised to see your spouse do the same thing for you.

Carolyn Anderson loves to share resources on improving relationships. To learn more about becoming the ideal wife for your husband, check out What Husbands Can’t Resist. Also check out Drive Your Man Wild, where you can find tips in maintaining the passion and romance in your married life.

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Keys To A Happy Marriage - Ways To Make A Happy Relationship With Your Spouse

Tuesday 21 July 2009 @ 9:24 am

You may have seen a lot of couples go into divorce and this might leave you wondering what exactly are the keys to a happy marriage. There may not be a single formula to make marriage successful, but you can do many ways to make your marriage work.

If you are looking for ideas to maintain the life in your relationship with your spouse, here are some tips and ideas that could be your keys to a happy marriage.

- Communication. Communication most probably plays the biggest role in marriages and one of the most important keys to a happy marriage. Being able to talk to your spouse in about just anything is one good thing in marriage. Stay connected. A simple text message or a simple call would do when you are out working.

- Accept your differences. Realize that no matter how compatible you are with your spouse, there are always differences that will arise.

- Look at what is best with your spouse, not into the negative qualities you discover about him. You have to understand that your spouse has negative and positive qualities, and you have to learn to appreciate what is good about your partner.

- Forget about changing the other person. Trying to change the person to fit to your standards will not help you achieve anything in marriage.

- Add variety to your daily life. Giving your partner a little surprise every now and then is also helpful in eliminating monotony in the relationship.

- Keep in mind that loving is giving. Do not always expect your spouse to do things for you, act the way you want them to be and give you all your desires. Instead, think of what you can do to him and what can make your spouse happy. Learn to give more than what your spouse gives you.

- Respect your spouse. Marrying someone does not mean owning her or him. Respect your partner’s personal rights and be kind.

- Watch your thoughts as your thoughts can become your actions.

- Plan your finances together. Especially if it involves major decisions regarding the finances, always consult your partner.

- Give trust. Don’t keep secrets from your spouse.

- Avoid criticism and nagging. Compliment if necessary. If there is something that you think that needs correcting, do it lovingly and do things positively as possible.

- Encourage one another. Giving each other support is one thing that spouses should do to each other rather than finding faults in each other.

- Keep the passion alive. Sex is an essential part of marriage. Be open when it comes to sexual matters. Add variety and enjoy the lovemaking.

- Have fun together. Marriage can become so boring if you can’t even watch television together with your spouse or you haven’t had a good laugh together. Find something that can both amuse you and your partner. Do something fun together.

- Do not stop telling your partner you love him or her. This may be as simple as it seems but it is one of the most important keys to a happy marriage.

Carolyn Anderson loves to share useful tips about love and relationships. To learn about ways to better understand your husband, What Husbands Can’t Resist. Also check out Rousing the Lion, for great tips to seduce your man and keep him interested.

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What Men Want In a Wife - Making Your Marriage Work

Monday 20 July 2009 @ 10:10 pm

Are you one of those wondering what men want in a wife? If you are a wife who wants to make your marriage a little happier or a little nicer for your husband, or if you are a woman who just recently gotten married - here are some ideas about what men want in a wife that might help you in giving your man what he expects you to do.

* Men love independent and confident women. They want women who can manage their lives without being too dependent with their man. A woman who can earn for herself and is capable of making money to help him with the finances is also another factor that men in modern times are considering in choosing a wife. A woman who is too fragile and needy is not what men want to spend their lives forever.

* Men love to be with a happy companion and a woman who looks at things positively. When men think of getting married to a woman, they think about being with that woman everyday of his life and living with women who constantly complains about just about anything is not an attractive partner in life. Although complaining can be inevitable at times, it would be attractive to men if your being positive and fun outweighs the negative energy in you. Having a positive outlook is a major element in attraction - whether you are attracting a man, wealth or the good things in life.

* Men want great sex. It is not just by choice or what. Men by nature have higher libido than women, so they often want a partner in life that is compatible with them sexually. Men most often express love through sex that they tend to look for a woman who can also take care of their needs when it comes to that aspect. Women just have to realize that when it comes to physical intimacies, what men want in a wife is not just sex but great sex.

* Men want to feel loved and cared for. Men want to have your time as well. This is especially true when you already have kids, women may tend to be so engrossed with kids at home that they tend to forget about giving even a little comforting hug to their husbands. At times, men want someone to cry on and a shoulder where they can just ‘be weak’ - so don’t forget to also to take some time to pay attention to the man in your life and cheer him up when he is depressed and down.

* Men want to be appreciated. If women love the feeling of being sincerely complimented, men and husbands also love to be appreciated for what they give and contribute to building a good family. If men should learn how to compliment sincerely, and women and wives learn to be appreciative of the man in their lives, it would make a lot of difference in relationships. You do not have to appreciate something that is obviously not worth appreciating, but you can find many things to appreciate in your man. You just have to look at the positive qualities rather than picking on his mistakes.

* Men love a woman who knows how to listen and understand. Men hate a nagging wife and they appreciate a woman who listens and understands, not someone who barge into the room with all the whining and nagging.

When women take time to think about what men want in a wife, it truly can make a difference in the marriage. Although marriage is not a one-way street, you can always initiate a few things to make the relationship running well.

Carolyn Anderson writes a lot about love and relationships. To learn more about being the woman men never want to leave, check out the woman men love . Also check out Calling Men, where you can find tips on how to call men to make them attracted to you.

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